7 psychological tips to help you feel less busy

Try these practical steps to spend more of your time on your own terms.

1. Pick a cue for slowing down

Pick a cue that happens multiple times per day e.g., going to the bathroom. Use this cue to take a few moments of personal time. Claim those moments as your own.

For example, take a few slow breaths while sitting on the loo, and/or do a big stretch on entering the bathroom.

2. At least once a day, do something that’s on your own agenda rather than other people’s

For many of us, there are days that can feel hijacked by doing things urgently that other people need us to do. At least once a day, do something that’s on YOUR priority list. It could be as simple as reading a couple of articles from a magazine.

3. When rushing doesn’t save you time, don’t rush

What could do you do at a relaxed pace that wouldn’t really add any time vs. doing that activity at a rushed pace? Are there some activities where rushing ends up taking you more time due to screwing things up?

4. Reclaim relaxed waiting time

What activities do you do where waiting is inevitable, e.g., the line at Trader Joe's? How could you enjoy this waiting time and use it as an opportunity to pause, rather than getting anxious and uptight over the waiting?

What mental skills would you need to feel relaxed during these waiting periods? You’d need acceptance skills, but you might also need curiosity for enjoying the people watching aspect. Sometimes there is something pleasant about the waiting that you can savor — e.g., being in cool air-con.  

5. Make eating sacred time

Bolting down your food is a sure way to leave you feeling like you have no control over your time. Have a personal policy that you won’t keep working while eating. Even if you’re just sitting at your desk, you could listen to podcast while eating rather than continuing to work.  

6. Set a bedtime routine

We all know that little kids need a wind-down routine or it’s hard to get them to sleep. This principle applies to adults too. Start your wind down routine a couple of hours before you expect yourself to fall asleep. I’m not saying you have to turn off all electronics at this point.  

See what works for you. For example, I still check email before I go to bed most nights, but I stop talking on the phone or having other forms of social interaction a couple of hours before bed.

7. Do less task switching

You’ll feel excessively busy if you’re always switching from one task to another. Figure out how you can give tasks the block of time they need, without task hopping.

Some people find they can use low brain power tasks as a “reward” for when they’ve finished something that requires a lot of concentration.