The truth about being married

You've just got of an Ivy League school, you've got a great paying career and now you've gone and found yourself the perfect man. And happiness - he's proposed! What more could you want? You'll have your two children and you'll be the perfect family, happily after after! Wrong! Wrong! Wrong! Marriage is a whole new ball of wax which has its own confusing problems and migraines. If you thought that there's a happily ever after then you're quite naive. Not that fairy tales don't exist (yeah right) it's just that the 'happily ever after' comes but after lots and lots of hard work. Take a look at the common marriage myths which almost everyone takes for granted. My hubby is my best bud If that's what you think then you're in for a super duper disappointment. Of course you do get close after several months and years of marriage, but before that you have to learn each others foibles and annoying quirks, nurse each other through bad times and disappointments, and that will take time! I'd get laid everyday Ha ha - dream on! Married couples can't have sex everyday as they are too tired with work to find time for it. And there are so many other things to do around the house that you're lucky if you even get to cuddle! Babies will bring us closer Babies are great but the initial process of delivery and bringing up a child in the first few months is tough on your body and emotions. You'll feel that you're doing the bulk of the work and may get real angry and that may put a wall between you two. Not that parenting isn't great, but only if you both work at it. If we fight then we'll grow apart Not true! When you enter into marriage, you're still two different people and the only way you can get issues settled is to talk about them. Some times you may get angry but unless you talk you cannot settle issues. Love will keep us alive Yes it's obviously a must have but the binding add on is commitment, companionship, and trust. The happiest couples are people who have become friends over time and have similar interests and values. Although these are just a few of the myths which abound regarding marriage, don't feel discouraged. Consider your marriage as a partnership where you have to earn each others trust and companionship and you'll do much better!